Healing the Shame that Binds You
- ISBN13: 9780757303234
- Condition: NEW
- Notes: Brand New from Publisher. No Remainder Mark.
Product Description
This classic book, written 17 years ago but still selling more than 13,000 copies every year, has been completely updated and expanded by the author.
“I used to drink,” writes John Bradshaw,”to solve the problems caused by drinking. The more I drank to relieve my shame-based loneliness and hurt, the more I felt ashamed.”
Shame is the motivator behind our toxic behaviors: the compulsion, co-dependency, addiction and drive to superachieve that breaks down the family and destroys personal lives. This book has helped millions identify their personal shame, understand the underlying reasons for it, address these root causes and release themselves from the shame that binds them to their past failures.
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I think the content was horrible and everything was false. I belive the writer is not very good one, and the book seems to not understand the problems we are all going through.
Rating: 1 / 5
Healing the Shame that Binds You
I read this book twenty something years ago. I have family problems. Don’t we all? My parents let me down in many ways, and so did my siblings.
But this book left me feeling that my problems were someone else’s fault. I no longer had to feel responsible for my own thoughts, decisions and actions. Fact is, shame is there for a reason. It makes me aware that I am guilty. I can’t do anything about my guilt. Only God can. And he did. He sent his son Jesus to die in my place and take away my guilt. I am forgiven. I am loved by a perfect Father.
I was raised in a Christian home. I knew about God’s love in my head. But as a college student I read Bradshaw’s book. It was at a time when I was suffering from my parents’ bitter divorce. Because I got so caught up into focusing on their sins and blaming them, and rejecting any shame I felt from my own misconduct, I couldn’t grow.
So stay away from this book. Or at least if you read it, you will need a good dose of truth to help you deal with the lies in Bradshaw’s book. I think he meant well. But he’s way off base. The truth will set you free. This stuff will bind you for a long, long, time!
Rating: 1 / 5
Healing the Shame that Binds You
I can testify I read this literature in the early 90’s when self-help movement was in it’s prime. I quoted this book to my therapist verbatim. She would say, “How do you feel?” I would reply, “Well, John Bradshaw says this….”
In any case, the style is strange to begin with. From the get-go you are led into some brainwashing diatribe. Then you are introduced to acronyms. Bradshaw, it seems, bases his career on creating acronyms.
But do not be fooled into ACOA. Shame is a powerful tool. But Bradshaw leads you down the road of blame. HIs philosophy becomes rather destructive as you become a cult elitist. He wants you to lean on the 12 STeps. The 12 STeps originated with Frank Buchman of the OxFord Group. Buchman appeared in 1936 cover of TIME on Hitler’s B-day with the label, Cultist Buchman. Buchman demanded rigorous honesty. He also befriended Himmler and referred to him as a “marvelous lad”. Embarrassed by Buchman’s associations (and plausable homosexuality) the OxFord Group pretended to support WWII and changed its name to Moral Rearmament. You can change the name of your organization, but you can’t change history. AA picks up around same time period. Buchman only cared about $ and influences. So AA sought gutter drunks. That is the only difference. But the first six steps of AA began with Buchman. Bradshaw wants to lead you down the same road of RIGOROUS HONESTY. Is it that helpful?? When do we know when to stop being so da#M honest.
The fact that Bradshaw started careerwise as a Priest is indicative to his thought processes. He has wounds inflicted from the Catholic Church, and he is more than willing to inflict the wound in kind.
Rating: 1 / 5
Healing the Shame that Binds You
When the author describes the damage of shame he is right on. However, he describes shame as a normal healthy emotion. It is not. He describes ‘toxic shame’ as the unhealthy emotion. Shame, straight from Webster’s: 1a. A painful feeling brought about by a strong sense of guilt, embarrassment, unworthiness, or disgrace. b. Capacity for such a feeling 2. One that brings dishonor, disgrace, or condemnation. There isn’t anything normal or healthy in that definition. Yet, the author creates the illusion of a ‘healthy shame.’ As long as the reader stays true to shame as ‘not healthy’ and disregards any imaginary reference of ‘healthy shame,’ ‘Healing the Shame That Binds You’ has insightful views in the realm of shame.
Rating: 3 / 5
Healing the Shame that Binds You
i couldn’t even get 25 pages into this book…it is so full of “techno-speak” littered with terms from counseling and psychoanalysis which are bewildering and unintelligible
the whole premise of “healthy shame” is like saying “good murder”-it makes no sense…
Rating: 1 / 5
Healing the Shame that Binds You